I know that pregnancy is not only a very exciting time but can also feel incredibly stressful and scary. We have not only our own natural fear of the unknown, but also often others stories and opinions. Although we are incredibly lucky to have to have UK maternity system (and amazing midwives) many birthing people may find themselves struggling to make their voices heard, or may feel that they have little choice regarding their pregnancy and labour. They may feel anxious about having a managed labour, or may be worried about how they will cope with a 'natural' labour. Therefore, more and more people are looking at ways they can help themselves have a positive informed birth, feeling supported and able to manage their labour.
By knowing your choices, by understanding your rights and by realising the positive effects that you are able to have using environment, actions and belief in your own abilities, you are able to step out of the one-size-fits-all system and move towards owning your labour and the birth of your baby.
My private hypnobirthing classes are tailored to you. We can create a bespoke antenatal class that suits you, and we have time to focus on the parts that will effect you most, or go over subjects that need more time to help you understand them.
For birthing people who feel they would benefit from extra support, hiring a doula may provide them with the confidence to birth in a particular way (this may be vaginal or it may be a caesarean birth), to advocate for themselves, or simply to know that they and their family have additional help where it is needed.
If you're thinking "ooh, please tell me more!" then give me a call or drop me an email to have a chat about how hypnobirthing or a doula can work for you.
My name is Nicky, and I'm mum to two small humans, one fluffy rabbit, and a teeny-tiny dog.
I decided to train as an antenatal teacher as I felt so passionately that women should have access to a really solid antenatal education. I had done antenatal classes when I was pregnant with my first but found they hadn't prepared me at all, and I hadn't anticipated just how important it would be to actually know things about the birth process! When things didn't turn out the way I had been led to expect they would I felt unprepared and out of control.
When I was pregnant with my second child I thought I could either spend the pregnancy dreading the labour, worrying about it turning out like the first, or I could educate myself about why things turned out the way they did. So I did a different type of antenatal class and started attending Positive Birth Movement meetups and it was a revelation. Finally things that had been clouded in mystery about my first labour became clear. And while I released my negative thoughts about my first birth I did start to become really angry that these things, that should have been taught as standard in my very expensive antenatal classes, had been kept from us as though we were only capable of playing silly games and chatting about 'safe' topics.
Although my second labour wasn't a 'perfect' birth I felt much more a part of the labour rather than feeling it was something being done to me, and I left feeling positively, and more importantly that I had done a good job. I didn't have the feelings of failure I had felt with my first. I strongly believe (and know from conversations with clients and friends) that you can have positive births that are induced, or by caesarean, or with pain relief or without pain relief. The power is within us.
So my antenatal classes focus on teaching women to fully understand how birth works, and treating them like adults who deserve to know and understand their rights. We don't talk about perfect births we talk about empowered births.
In 2018 I decided to also train as a hypnobirthing teacher (having used it in my labours) so I could help couples release any fear or negative thoughts during pregnancy, understand the connection between the mind and body during labour and how we need the two to work together, and to have a technique to use during the labour to help them stay relaxed and utilise that mind-body connection.
I'm really excited to now be running the mother of hypnobirthing workshops. Bringing together all the elements of my antenatal classes (with topics and activities designed to promote discussion and get you to think about assumptions and perspective) and the fantastic Hypnobirthing course, my classes have you covered from late pregnancy through to the first 12 weeks with your fresh out of the box baby.
Whilst I wish for a beautiful birth for every client I work with, I am aware that the birth landscape in the UK can be challenging, so in 2019, I decided to focus more heavily on supporting women both during and after birth, and offer doula services (for birth and postnatally) and the TBR Three Step Rewind programme for birth trauma. The services can be completely tailored to your specific situation, and can be started at any point in your conception or pregnancy journey. My training has been with organisations that are trauma informed and culturally aware, and I try to be as adaptive and inclusive as I can and I am always eager to learn. I am an avid campaigner for improving maternity care and services for all birthing people and feel strongly that everyone who births should have access to quality, unbiased and infomed education and care,.
BY GLOW BIRTHS
Bespoke hypnobirthing and doula services in West Sussex.
If you are interested in antenatal classes which are completely inclusive and designed for the whole community, with subsidised classes available for those on a low wage, then please take a look at Glow Births CIC www.glowbirthsandbabies.co.uk
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